When you’re single and looking, the best approach to dating is to try multiple methods of meeting people. Speed dating is a great option, especially if the event is themed to match singles with common ages or interests.
As with any dating venture, it is important to set reasonable expectations. Yes, you’re hoping to meet the love of your life, but if that is your only measure of success for the evening, you’ll be setting yourself up for disappointment. Here are 4 tips for setting realistic expectations to make speed dating an enjoyable experience.
1. Expect interesting conversation.
Your main goal for the event should be to enjoy talking to new people. Most people have something interesting to talk about. Ask a simple, broad–topic question like, «When was your last vacation?» and you’ll find that people will easily fall into talking about their «thing,» whatever that thing is.
2. Expect some of your dates to be nervous, and try to make them feel comfortable.
It is not easy for some guys to start conversations with women they don’t know. For shy guys, speed dating is a guaranteed way to meet women, and it forces them to come out of their shells. If you recognize that your three minute date is a little nervous, make him feel comfortable by smiling, making eye contact and reserving judgment. You might not be falling in love, but you should still show kindness to your dates. They have feelings, too!
3. Expect to make some new girlfriends.
Before the event starts, chat up some of the other single women. Introduce yourself and ask if they have tried speed dating before. Not only will you make new friends, you’ll warm up for the evening by socializing.
4. After the event, expect to have suitable matches.
As with any dating endeavor, it is important to remember that your view of any potential compatibility is only your view. You may think you have found exactly what you’re looking for, only to find out that you’re nothing of what he’s looking for. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you; it just means you two are not a match. Be happy to have discovered this early on, so you can spend your time finding someone better suited for you.
With realistic expectations, you can be sure you’ll enjoy the speed dating event. And your positivity will only make you all the more attractive!